I carry private laws about how people should behave.
If someone cares, they should remember. If they respect me, they should respond quickly. If I have explained myself clearly, they should understand.
These laws feel obvious until another person fails to obey one.
I remember feeling hurt when a friend did not mark an occasion that mattered to me. The disappointment was real, but it quickly became a verdict: caring people remember important dates.
That law reduced the whole relationship to one missed moment.
When I questioned it, I did not have to pretend the occasion was unimportant. I could tell my friend that I had felt forgotten and listen to what had happened on their side.
The law had offered certainty about who they were. Releasing it made room for a conversation.
I bind another person whenever I define their worth through a rule God did not create. I bind myself the same way when I decide that good people never forget, struggle, disappoint, or need correction.
Today I want to notice the word *should* inside one grievance.
Standards and agreements still matter. Relationships need reliability and repair.
But a useful expectation does not have to become a spiritual sentence.
God’s Son is not contained by my rulebook.
Neither am I.
A PRIVATE REFLECTION
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A QUIETER WAY TO PRACTICE
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